Today is Mother's Day, and we're celebrating this woman. As the boys get older, the more I realize the exclusivity of the mother-son relationship, and how awesome it is to be a witness to all of the support and love they share. There are so many daily moments I observe that make me proud of Emily. I'm grateful and humbled to share my life with a woman that is willing to weed her way through the messiness of life and set an example to our boys that I pray they follow.
It's important for me to remember this day has nothing to do with me. Ever since we celebrated Emily's first Mother's Day, when Shep was only 2 months old, Mother's Day has been about how myself and others share with Emily how awesome she is doing as a mom. (Sure, I would fake the boys' messages and signatures on the cards but shhh those weren't real.) These past 5 years the boys were either too young to talk or just couldn't grasp what to do on a holiday that didn't involve dressing up, getting presents, or blowing things up.
But this year is different. This is a day that is and should be about Emily, and my boys' appreciation and love for her. And how their relationship has substantially increased their capacity to speak and show love. As a spouse, sure, I can relate to struggles and joys of parenthood, but sometimes, when you're dealing with the daily monotony of teaming up to make a ruling on who did what to whom where when and how, or making sure we have enough food in the house to feed the "starving" mob, you lose perspective. And as arcane and manufactured certain holidays are, in a weird way, it's nice to focus on just a small fraction of what describes Emily. She is a mother, but she has countless roles and vocations she lives and pursues each and every day. She is so much more than just a Mom. But being a Mom is so much.
So, instead of writing about all the ways Emily rocks at being a mom, I'm going to celebrate by observing Emily and my boys. Because watching her as a mom is just one of the coolest things ever. It's such a huge part of her life now that wasn't there when I fell in love with her 10 years ago. And it's supremely satisfying watching all of those amazing and beautiful reasons I fell in love with her jump out and transform into parental qualities that are instilling behaviors, ethics, compassion, faith, curious minds, adventurous souls, and boundless love into our boys.
Happy Mother's Day, Emily!